by Alair Altiero | March 26, 2010
“I will not only use the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow.”
While on your academic journey, you may find yourself coming across others that will inspire changes and growth within you. As others influence you, you too will influence them though your own insights into life and learning. We find ourselves playing dual roles of both teacher and student—after all, life is not a solitary occupation, but one to be shared. Sometimes, it is those who challenge us the most that we learn the most from.
*One of the ways in which we learn from others is in how we give and accept feedback. Quality feedback can evoke many different types of emotional responses; some positive and others negative. It is normal to want to invalidate feedback from others when we feel uncomfortable with what we hear; being told we aren’t right, or that we can do better doesn’t always feel good.
*Allow some time to process the information you are given. This is one way of avoiding this type of negative response.
*Ask clarifying questions; this too can also aid in the acceptance of feedback.
*Be descriptive, clear and professional in your communications to others. Judge the feedback, not the person. Often times it is easy to misread tone in words and become angry or upset when viewpoints are challenged, but it is through professional, scholarly debates that we learn and grow as individuals, and how we continue to move down the path as life-long learners.